Boom VisionTM Podcast
Ep. 34: Family Constellation: Healing Generational Trauma with Dr. Ivonne Ferandell-Villarino, D.C.
“When we heal ourselves, we heal the past, the present, and the future.” ― Steven D. Farmer
Today's interview is our returning guest, Dr. Ivonne Ferandell-Villarino D.C.. Do you ever feel you carry generational trauma and don't know how to heal it? Do you find yourself stuck in the same pattern with either personal partners or business partners, that never work out? How can family constellation work help you break emotional, generational, or business trauma? In today's interview, we dive into:
- Dr. Ivonne's origin story.
- Family Constellation Therapy 101.
- Difference between Therapy versus Family Constellation Therapy.
- The Netflix show: Another Self
- How family constellation can help with your business.
- Action step you can take if interested in family constellation work.
[3:03] - Welcome to episode 34 of the Boom Vision podcast! I'm super excited to share today's interview with our returning guest, Dr. Ivonne Ferandell-Villarino. As you may recall, I'm blessed to have met Dr. Ivonne last year in a constellation workshop that both my wife and I attended. In Episode 16, we dove into the topic of the 3 T's: Thoughts, Trauma and Toxins. What she shared in that episode is that the 3 T's are things that your body is either going to absorb, it’s going to match or its going to succumb.
I've invited Dr. Ivonne back to our show because I wanted us to share the beauty and magic of family constellation work.
As Steven D. Farmer has said, “When we heal ourselves, we heal the past, the present, and the future.” So how can family constellation work help you in your journey to heal your emotional trauma, generational trauma or even business trauma?
[4:14] As a brief background: Dr. Ivonne Ferandell-Villarino is a Doctor of Chiropractic, who works at the Healing Arts Center of Altadena, California. She approaches each practice member as a true individual, with their own masterful design. The goal is focused on facilitation, and a true discovery toward empowerment for each individual who decides they are ready to explore, as a team. Her approach is a call upon the balance between mind, body and spirit. She focuses on structure, biochemistry, nutrition, and emotions - and how they are all interconnected. Dr. Ivonne comes from a family line of healers and facilitators; Her parents are retired mental health workers from her hometown of El Monte, in Southern California, and her sister Vanessa is an Acupuncturist who works at the Healing Arts Center of Altadena alongside her and the team of other amazing Holistic Health Practitioners. Together they have all learned the value of community, and how we are truly all in this wild world together.
So without further ado, here's Dr. Ivonne!:
[6:06] - Dr. Ivonne's origin story.
- (IFV) I am a Doctor of Chiropractic. I do holistic care: I'm a holistic health practitioner that likes to facilitate the connection between the mind, the body and the chemistry of the system.
[7:07] - (BY) Constellations Work 101: What is it? How would you describe this in layman's terms? Someone that doesn't know anything about it?
(IFV) Who comes into mind is my first teacher, Francesca Mason Boring. Conflict resolution. Constellation work is a deep beautiful work that combines the spiritual nature that is innately within us within our own innate power of psychology.
Constellation as developed by Bert Hellinger. He created this in the 1950s, he was a missionary that went to the Zulu tribe in South Africa. What he noticed is that healing happens within groups.
We now know with epigenetics, we inherit the DNA of emotions, that is 100% in our systems. So it's not just body, biological, it's our spiritual. This is an approach to look at the links between who did we come from, what were the patterns and issues, successes, challenges and everything in between.
[11:05] - (BY) When you heal your past, you heal your present and your future.
[11:40] - (BY) Science, Woo, or a mix of both?: What's the core essence of Constellation work, is it science, is it woo, from your perspective?
[13:57] - (BY) Main distinction between having a therapy session versus a Constellation session?
(IFV) I love therapy. The types of therapy I like the most are embodying therapy, so somatic therapy, gestalt therapy. Reiki and bioenergetics therapy, holotropic breathing, these are things that move the body.
Therapy and constellation, very much different and the same, depending on how you use it.
Therapy and constellation: they are both doing the same thing, which is touching deep into your psychic and your spiritual and your psychology. And then how that transforms into your physiology. Stress is the leading cause to disease in your system, so how do we manage our stress?
[16:55] (BY) There's a quote I want to share that's really relevant to what you just shared. "The moment you change your perception, is the moment you rewrite the chemistry of your body." - Dr. Bruce Lipton
(IFV) One of my favorite things I love about my teacher Francesca is that she says "there's so much room for no, and there's so much room for yes, and then there's a maybe too."
In South America, they use this technique (Family Constellation) in the legal system, in the courts.
[20:06] (BY) I know, from my own experience, I had 2 types of constellation work. First time was in a group workshop (with Francesca and Dr. Ivonne), the 2nd type I understand is working with inanimate objects. Between the 2 types: Live in a group, or inanimate objects, how does that work?
(IFV) Why the group works, is that each participant is part of the greater field of humanity, of life and everything. That means that in the day to day, even with inanimate objects. That has a resonates and presence in the live world.
1) Live Group: Example is if someone has a conflict they want to resolve. Sometimes the group knows what the conflict is, sometimes they don't (a Blind).
2) Using inanimate objects
[29:27] - (BY) Another Self: In prep of our interview today, you recommended me to watch this Netflix show. How did you hear about this show and what are your thoughts about this show?
(IFV) I learned it from my lovely teacher Francesca. It was dubbed Turkish into English. They stayed true to the technique and placed characters that are classic.
Netflix show: Sex, Love, & Goop, Episode 5 is about Family Constellation
[33:50] - (BY) Sharing experiences: What are some experiences you can share that ether your past clients or ones you've participated that has helped the person in a profound way?
(IFV) Orders of love, the orders of life
[40:42] (BY) Not just your own living relatives trauma, but past trauma (i.e. great-great-grandfather) before you were born, how does that work in constellations?
[47:20] - (IFV) Big misconception: Sometimes out of loyalty or feelings of obligations, we take on the unlived lives of our family members.
[52:11] - (BY) Speaking of business, how can this help with your business, career, etc.?: How can constellations work help in one's life?
(IFV) Business are an open system. Everyone must have a task in order to be in that system. Family is a closed system.
[56:51] - (BY) Golden Nugget: What is one thing (golden nugget) about constellation work that you wish people knew about or understood?
(IFV) Be willing to be completely surprised by what is true. Be willing to know that transformation is deeply possible.
[58:38] - (BY) Action Steps: What is one action step that you can share with our audience, if our audience is interested about Constellation work, what would be one thing you recommend?
(IFV) Any living ancestor that you have, go talk to them and ask them about everything! Ask them about their lives, their greatest challenges, their stories. Talk to your parents if they're still alive, or older siblings. Ask yourself the questions of, why do I do this thing? Why am I stuck with this?
[1:01:48] - (BY) In Episode 16, you recommended the Book: It Didn't Start With You" by Mark Wolynn as a good constellation book. Is there another book that you recommend our audience to read?
- Book: "Acknowledging What Is" by Bert Hellinger
- Book: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
[1:04:39] - (BY) Time Machine: What is one thing you would tell yourself if you had an ability to travel back 10 years ago and share with your younger self to help her spiritual path? What would you say to your mom that in the same age that you are today, her younger self. What advice would you give her?
(IFV) I would tell her that I'm so proud of her and to keep having the courage to open up.
[1:09:21] - (BY) What is one thing you would tell yourself if you had an ability to travel back 10 years ago and share with your younger self to accelerate your spiritual growth?
(IFV): It was exactly what it was suppose to be, so I'd just tell her, you got it kid you got it! Everything is in it's right time.
[1:10:06] - (BY) Where can our listeners find you?
Dr. Ivonne's information:
- Healing Arts Center Website: https://www.healingartscenterofaltadena.com
[1:11:58] - (BY) You also do constellation work sessions via online (Zoom calls), can you share more about that?
(IFV): Yes, there's tons of facilitators that do this online, not just myself. We use objects or paper and we walk through the process online. I've been on Zoom calls with 110 people, it's amazing what we can happen through a group through the internet.
[1:15:22] - Final Takeaway: I love today's interview with Dr. Ivonne and the warmth that she brought to today's conversation. There's so many golden nuggets that I got. I feel the essence of today's interview is best summarized by a quote I remembered, and that is:
“We are not victims of our genes, but masters of our fates, able to create lives overflowing with peace, happiness, and love.” ― Dr. Bruce H. Lipton
It's often time easier to change areas of your life that you can see…that you're aware of. But what about the things you don't see? That you're not aware of? I wholeheartedly agree with Dr. Bruce Lipton that we are masters of our fate, and that we have the power and ability to create lives overflowing with peace, happiness and love.
One of the first steps of self healing is deciding that you are ready to be healed. And I hope that by learning more about Family Constellations Therapy today, that you find that awareness, courage and self love to explore healing modalities that work best for you.
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