Episode 35: Self-Compassion: What's the Key to Happiness in Life?

Movie Quote: "I guess it comes down to a simple choice...really: Get busy living or get busy dying." - Andy Dufresne, Tim Robbins in Shawshank Redemption 
 

Folks, do you feel your life is just busy? Busy with work, busy with running your business, busy with kids, busy preparing for the holidays around the corner? Have you ever took a second to pause and just ask yourself, what am I busy doing? Am I busy living or busy dying?

Quote: “Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” - Dalai Lama XIV 

Folks, I wholeheartedly agree that love and compassion is a necessity. It's not just compassion towards others, but compassion towards self that's an important first step. You've heard me mentioned the 3 C's in Episode 33.  However, the main question for today is, what's the key to happiness in life?  In today's episode, I'm going to share how combining self-compassion and this mystery key are both necessary pieces in igniting your inner happiness, creating your life purpose, and living a fulfilled life.  What is this mystery key?  In today's episode, I will share:

1. The Chinese character of 'busy'
2. Fire cannot burn without oxygen
3. Self-compassion and mystery key to happiness
4. Business vs Busyness
5. I'll share action steps that will help you create more self-compassion for the remainder of 2022!

 Show Notes

[2:06] - Hi folks, welcome back to episode 35 of the Boom Vision podcast! Today's episode is about the importance of Self Compassion.

We spoke about the 3 C's in Episode 33: Confidence, Communication and Compassion, if you haven't listened to that episode, I highly recommend it!

So what does it mean to be "busy"

[2:48] - The Chinese character of Busy "忙" is written by combining 2 words: heart and death. 

[3:54] - Example: A fire cannot burn without oxygen.

Try sparking a campfire up in space on the moon. It's physically impossible! Without oxygen, fire cannot spark, it cannot breathe, it cannot start.

[5:08] - Self-Compassion

Definition: Self-compassion is simply the process of turning compassion inward.

How does self-compassion relate to finding the key to happiness in your life?

The key is space.

Share imagery of 'busy'

[8:52] - Main Takeaway: Are you running a business to create a life of your dreams? Or are you running a 'busyness' that consumes your dreams?

[9:21] - Action Steps: 

1. Self-Compassion: I want you to carve out, at the very bare minimum, 15 mins of 'oxygen rich me time' each week for the next 6 weeks.
2. Language: When you are feeling 'busy', or if someone is asking if you are busy, I'd like you to replace the word 'busy' with 'full'. Instead of a busy day, I have a full day.

Remember, the purpose of this week's action steps is to help you evaluate your life, and see if you can express self compassion and give yourself the key of space. 

[12:44] - Final Thoughts

Quote: "When you really listen to another person from their point of view, and reflect back to them that understanding, it's like giving them emotional oxygen." - Stephen Covey.

Folks, instead of listening to another person, I want you to give yourself the space and grace to listen to your inner child. Just taking a moment to pause and listen to what your inner child wants.

By listening to inner child's point of view, and acknowledging it, you're giving yourself emotional oxygen to breathe. You're creating the space for emotional oxygen to fill your space and allow your heart, your happiness to ignite and thrive!

When you practice and create a new habit of me time, from the intention of self compassion, you are providing yourself that emotional, oxygen rich space, to allow happiness, joy and wonder to spark, to sustain, to thrive! YOU'VE GOT THIS!

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